Your ability to create the reality that you want is directly determined by your willingness to experience its opposite. Saving $ will have you feeling broke while it's making you rich. Setting boundaries will have you feeling alone while you're creating new healthy relationships in your life. Digging up your trauma will have you feeling broken while it's actually healing you. Working out has you feeling weak while it's actually making you strong. Learning something new makes you feel dumb while it's actually making you more intelligent. Your ability to attain the thing that you want is directly correlated with how willing you are to experience its opposite.